Its often said here in thailand that when you marry the girl you marry her family as well.
Is that the same for Philipino girls as well? Do the girls family expect you to act as ATM's as many thai family might expect?
Depends on the Family, If you married a Filipina it doesn't mean you have to support the family, hell who wouldnt want that? Although sometimes and I think it is just normal that when you visit the girls family especially for the first time" Gift" or Pasalubong especially in the province are nice but not neccesarily. Even neighbors who would go back to their home(province) well do the same. The best way to win a girl is to win the family first. Other call it marrying the family first.
Does the family do what it can to get the girl married to white man and then after ask for support?--or do they make it clear the marriage that they expect support?? _________________ Asia Expats Forum Expat Friends Dating
Does the family do what it can to get the girl married to white man and then after ask for support?--or do they make it clear the marriage that they expect support??
Again that depends on the girl's family. For sure in my case which I think was just normal for my parenst the way they react because of our age difference. When I said I am going to get married & be with my husband & I did give up my study to be with him, my parents actually told me they don't want me to go and no my parents doesnt expect me to support them.
When we were young my siblings & I have agreement that whatever happens we are going to help each other & look after our parents but with my fortunate brother who bought couple of lands for them to work on and car. And no my parents does not expect me or him to give them money. I couldnt imagine my family asking me for money. We may have give them something on special occasions such as christmas but its voluntarily.
Although I have heard a lot of stories from a foreign friend who went to Cebu years ago who was basically asked by a family to marry their daughter. In most cases if the girl you are marrying to is I don't know how to out it but say she has been convince by parents to support or send them money once married to their foreign husband because in the Philippines or in most third world countries once a person get married to a WHITE MEN they think you are rich & have a lots of money which is hilarious.
It is impossible to generalise about the attitude of Filipinas or their parents.
It ranges from those who prefer older foreign men, to some who would not consider a foreign husband, irrespective of age.
Some (and their parents) see all foreigners as a source of funds for all the family, whilst others will manage on their own, and have too much pride to accept "handouts".
I have had Filipinas approach me, with the obvious (and sometimes stated) object of enhancing their and their families income, even if it meant marrying me.
I have even had (although it is VERY rare) parents suggest their daughters as a partner, provided I help support the family.
On the other hand, I have met Filipinas who have exactly opposite ideas.
But will they make their intentions clear before a marriage? or all of a sudden they start asking for money to help so and so? _________________ Asia Expats Forum Expat Friends Dating
Even if they dont make them clear, in most cases I would think that it would be pretty obvious at an early stage.
On the other hand, there is a lot of poverty there.
A UN report in the early 90's showed that two children per hour died of starvation or malnutrition.
No, that is not a typo. Two per hour.
A more recent report on a provincial hospital showed they were admitting around 30 kids daily for malnutrition.
In those circumstances, it is hardly surprising that families want, or hope for, support from "wealthy" relatives.
I know several guys here (UK) and in other countries who have married Filipinas, and those who have married into poor families are usually happy to make some contribution to help them. Some times in the form of assisting them to set up a small business, in other cases, by making regular contributions of what is, to us, small amounts, but which can make a lot of difference to the very poor.
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